2013 Top 5: Reflection and Inspiration


Lizzy put it very succinctly when she quoted Malcom Forbes:

“Too many people undervalue what they are and overvalue what they aren’t”

She was writing in response to Rochelle’s post about yearly reviews and the unfavourable comparisons that some of us draw when comparing ourselves to any one else.  This is something I’ve been guilty of; I look at the productivity of others and think that I should be achieving similar numbers of garments.  I need to remember that I have a lot going on ‘behind the scenes’ as well as my sewing and blogging.  I’ve got Boy and Husband, a job, Husband’s business, and a house that somehow needs to be vaguely tidy, clean and stocked with food.  Everyone’s life is different and I’m just setting myself up to feel like a failure if I compare myself to others, and I’m not a failure.  I’m liked and loved the way I am.

And, quite honestly, sometimes I’m tired and I don’t want to sew or blog.  I want to sit on the sofa and watch a movie or another episode or two of Arrow or Elementary.  That’s OK too.  I’m not superwoman and quite frankly, don’t want to be.  I am going to be more realistic in my expectations though.  I’m going to try not to put so much pressure on myself.

I’ve surprised myself by making 26 garments this year plus a few other bits and bobs (PJ monsters and a veil to name them).  I didn’t think I’d been that productive as at the beginning of the year I’d planned a quite frankly ridiculous number of garments.  I’ve actually achieved a finished item every couple of weeks and that isn’t bad at all when I consider how cray-cray things get around here.

I sew for fun.  I sew for the creativity and the mental stillness it brings and the continual learning.  I have a wardrobe like no one else’s and its personalised to me, my tastes and my body.  That’s pretty damn awesome.  I also value and take care of all our clothes far better as a result as I know and understand the effort that goes into making them.  I’ve also become aware of how easily distracted I can be.  Shiny pattern!  Pretty fabric!  I purchase far more than I sew and that has got to stop!  I’m not going to be unrealistic and put a ban on new fabric – tried that, epic fail.  I’m going into 2014 with a better idea of what will work and what is completely unrealistic.

I also need to keep front and centre that the reason I blog is because I enjoy it!  I love being part of our online sewing community, it’s not a method to pay bills.  I’m not dependent on stats or followers or referrals to earn money.  I’ve lost sight of the reason I started to write this thing during 2013.  I hope to correct that in 2014.  Through this blog and Twitter I have met some amazing people, some of whom have become friends I trust implicitly, some I’ve met and some I hope to meet.  Every single one of them has enriched my life though.  All because I write about thread, fabric and pretty dresses when I get a chance.

My two main things to remember, looking back on 2013, is not to beat myself up and remember why I blog and sew.  I enjoy reading your adventures and simply want to share mine and occasionally yell “This dress is amazeballs!”  (Hah, that’s going to be a blog post at some point…)

As for inspiration – that’s everyone who shares what they do.  Blogs, twitter, instagram.  Anyone who sticks their head above the parapet and shares what they do.  I love your passion, your excitement, your willingness to share.

See you later 2013; 2014 is going to be a good year…


17 thoughts on “2013 Top 5: Reflection and Inspiration

  1. Nice post Vickikate. If you read my retrospective, you will see that one of my reflections is that ‘I only need to impress myself’.
    Happy new year to you!

  2. Lovely post! It’s hard not to compare yourself to more productive bloggers. I struggled this year with feeling unproductive– it was a really tough year for me with work and school, and I just felt so sad that I couldn’t get to the sewing machine as much as I wanted! I had to check myself over and over as I kept coming up with crazy sewing plans that I would never, never have the time to finish. I’m hoping in 2014 to have more time to sew and blog, but either way, to prioritize my sewing more so that I’m focusing on sewing what I REALLY want to sew instead of getting so distracted all the time!

    1. That is definitely the hardest thing; comparing yourself to other bloggers. But at the same time I know my life is different to everyone else’s! And man, you took on a LOT this year! Sewing to a deadline with Mood and your class as well?! That’s pretty hardcore! I hope you find stuff you really want to sew this year, and if it is a piece of stunt sewing or for a particular event that’s pretty cool even if it isn’t as ‘practical’ as stuff that you’ll wear to shreds!

  3. Gosh, 26 garments and a career and a husband and little boy?????? Honey, you are one heck of a wonder woman! I’m retired and I doubt I did 12 sewing projects. Pat yourself on the back and say, “Well done! VERY well done!”

  4. Yes, I wholeheartedly agree!! Say it sister!!! 😀 Sewing is a hobby as is blogging, and hobbies are supposed to be FUN, and something we do in our free time (which for most of us is very very limited!!) Putting restrictions on yourself or ridiculous expectations of what you can accomplish in that very limited time just wipes all the fun away, and what’s the point of that? That’s what JOBS are for – HAHA!!! 😀

    That said, you’ve been amazingly productive this year, and I’m so proud of you and very much look forward to reading about each and every item you make so lovingly 🙂 Here’s to the joy in sewing, and yes, in stashing too (who doesn’t love shopping haha). And here’s to you, my friend – I hope your 2014 is all you hope it to be 🙂 XOXO

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